The Spiritual Significance of Self-Sabotaging Behavior

A recent youtube subscriber had written:

“Thank you. I wish I had followed your advice yesterday during my interview for my dream job. I only had a couple of hours sleep the night before (because of stress) and found myself talking and revealing too much during the interview, mostly due to exhaustion. I am much more reserved when rested. It would be good if you could do a video on unconscious self-sabotage or dealing with failure (if you haven’t already)” (This comment was in response to my video on The Art of Silence)

How many can relate?

– When you want to eat healthier but find yourself eating junk food,…

– When you want to start that business but lose steam after a few weeks,…

– When you look for love but attract all the wrong partners,…

– When you vow to spend more quality time with your kids/spouse/parents/etc but find other excuses to occupy yourself,…

– When you try to stick to routines that are healthy and more productive but conveniently forget, avoid, or distract yourself,…

Why do we self-sabotage ourselves? What is behind all this?

What is the spiritual perspective on this? 

I answer all these questions and more in today’s video:

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Anger Part II – Self Inquiry and Visualization for Empowerment and Enlightenment

This is the second part to my video series entitled Frustration, Anger and Rage.

Please watch the following video for my step-by-step process on how to learn from your anger and transmute it into compassion.

 

 

To supplement the above video, please refer to the following instructions:

At the first indication of frustration, irritation, or anger please stop. Close your eyes. Take a deep inhale and exhale and continue this for up to 10 breaths. Align yourself to the present moment. Once you are settled, move on to the 5 questions found below:

5 Questions Back To Sanity: (Self-Inquiry)

1. Identify the cause of your anger and the reason you feel slighted.

2. Ask yourself, what just happened to trigger this?

3. Ask yourself, what are your beliefs that dictate you are justified in your reaction?

4. Ask yourself if your beliefs are a universal truth and fact that all humans operate by?

5. Ask yourself if there is a higher perspective available to you for this given situation. If so, what is it?

Visualization:

To the best of your ability, try and put yourself into the other person’s shoes. If you were them, operating under their exact life circumstances, their exact upbringing, their exact thoughts and emotions, and their exact energetic state, would you have been able to choose differently?

Tip: There is no perfect way to visualize. Whatever you can allow yourself to see and feel is what is right for you right now. Refrain from over analyzing with the mind and emphasize feeling with the heart.

Living In The Now – Your Empowering Conclusion:

This is why we go through this process; to empower ourselves through a wider variety of available choices and options by which to find a workable solution.

Everyone’s empowering conclusion will be different based on where they are at in their personal growth and capabilities. Some people may wish to end engagement, others may wish to be of help/service, while others may wish to orchestrate more elaborate solutions.

Each case is unique and there is no perfect or right solution – just what is best for you, right here, right now. 😉

Magical Power Places – Sedona, Arizona 

What Are Magical Power Places?

You may have heard of places like Machu Picchu (Peru), Glastonbury (England), Mount Shasta (California), Bali (Indonesia), Varanasi (India), Uluru (Australia), and many many more.

These places are considered sacred, spiritual, and powerful. Many people are actually drawn to these sites unconsciously thinking they are going because of the history, culture or natural beauty.

No matter how one comes to discover these magical power places, one cannot deny the mystical, magical and mysterious nature that these destinations naturally exude. 

Travel is wonderful for the soul because it opens you up to different ways of life, new scenery, and offers possibilities and opportunities to perceive life differently.

When you visit a magical power place your opportunity to grow and evolve is accelerated because the energy is more concentrated and uplifting. 

For those that are interested in spiritual evolution and conscious expansion, visiting a magical power place is an absolute must. 

First, the space itself is charged and helps one to be more sensitive and attuned to higher frequencies. This is nature’s way of giving you a natural ‘boost’ to your energy system and allows you to imbibe and take in the different energies much easier.

Second, there have been many people and cultures that have recognized the land/space as being high energy frequency and have maintained the sacredness of the land through rituals and traditions. These sights of worship, ceremonies, and meditation have all added to the energy frequency making it very potent for us to ride the wave of previous energy work.

Third, a magical power place always give you what you need at the perfect time and place for you. This means that chance encounters with certain plants, animals, or people are very purposeful and important to your spiritual growth and evolution. Repeated signs, coincidences, and unique inner experiences often magically find their way into your consciousness, inviting you to explore and discover at a deeper level.

Magical power places are an invitation to learn more about yourself, nature, energy, and existence. They are a gift to us, when we are ready, to follow our calling and absorb the energy of the sacred land, sea, and sky.

The Twinkling Wonder of Sedona – Bell Rock’s Masculine Vibe

Bell Rock, Sedona AZ

I’ve been wanting to visit Sedona, Arizona for many years. My opportunity came this past week when my husband and I ventured into the gorgeous Red Rock country for our first glimpse of Sedona’s magic.

Our first stop was Bell Rock. As we made our way up the trail we paused to contemplate which way to trek. Looking to my left I felt this path would offer less traffic and a greater opportunity for silence.  

The surrounding scenery was breathtaking and the hike was relatively easy. We had a great time winding our way up the rock going higher and higher.

After some time we found a little area that had a shady rock overhang and a small flat surface. We brushed away the loose stones, took off our hiking boots and socks, and settled into a nice meditation together. 

Meditating in a power place amplifies your natural frequency. Tuning into Bell Rock’s energy was immediate, intense, and felt like it had a purpose. Many have described Bell Rock as being ‘masculine’ in nature which means to say that it is outward focused, sharp and powerful. If you are looking for solutions, answers, creative insight or just seeking a way forward, then meditating on Bell Rock will offer you all this and more.

After our meditation we continued winding our way up Bell Rock. To my left I noticed a particularly curious tree. It was as much peculiar as it was magical. I felt drawn to its irresistible energy and quickly sat underneath its twisted shaded branches.

The connection was immediate. The tree vibrated a sparkling tingly quality of effervescent energy. It was like the tree was giggling or laughing. Sitting beneath her branches it was easy to imbibe her natural bliss.

There are so many little nooks and crannies that one can escape to on Bell Rock. It was as if each stone, tree, insect and bird held an ancient secret tucked deep within themselves that held the promise of revelation only if you took the time to sit and listen. 

Magic was certainly in the air and the twinkling wonder of Sedona’s captivating red rock had us enthralled.

Not bad for our first introduction to mystical Sedona! 

Laughing Tree, Bell Rock, Sedona, AZ

(The laughing tree! Notice how the limbs of many trees are twisted due to the intense energy vortex found on these rock formations.)

Cathedral Rock – A Call Back To Mother Nature’s Womb

Cathedral Rock, Sedona, AZ

The next day I felt a very distinct call to hike up Cathedral Rock another one of Sedona’s very famous rock formations. This time we set off early and were on the hiking trails by 7am.  

We made our way to the top which had breathtaking views and gorgeous natural scenery. But it was my experience on the way down that I will hold in my heart for quite some time.

As we made our descent I felt a pull to my right and found an area that was shaded by trees and out of the way. 

We settled in and began our meditation. 

Once the body and mind are settled and at ease, with little to no thought, then the land speaks to you.

Power Place Tip: In order to feel the energies of any power place, one needs to get into a meditative state. If you are a regular meditator then this is a very natural process but if you just started out then becoming sensitive to the energies may be a little more difficult. 

In my experience, I started to feel the energy from the earth rise into my body. Subtle vibrations of energy slowly started circulating through me and all around me. It was such a soft, graceful energy; quite different from the energy of Bell Rock from the previous day.

As I enjoyed this gentle energy I suddenly felt a rise of emotion course through me.

A heavy sob erupted from within me and I could feel tears rolling down my cheeks. I wasn’t sad. The energy was so subtle, so gentle, and so soft that it touched the very core of my being.

It felt as if I was being cradled, embraced, and enveloped in a very gentle, mother-like energy that was incredibly soft, nurturing, unconditional and forgiving.

Every fiber in my being felt this energy undulating through me. My heart felt like it could burst from the raw compassion being offered to me. It was so tender, warm, and infinite in it’s depth.

I remained in this energy state for quite some time simply enjoying being cradled, held, and loved.

Suddenly and without notice, I was given information about this sacred place.

I was shown that this place, Cathedral Rock, was like a ‘womb’ and those that are called to it find themselves wrapped in the gentle loving embrace of the feminine or motherly energy. I realized that whether consciously or unconsciously, all those that are called to visit Cathedral Rock are being called back into the womb; not of our mother but of creation itself.

This womb cradled me, rocked me, and gently whispered her wisdom to me. The emotional release felt cleansing, uplifting, and purifying.

After some time I knew that my journey was coming to an end. I asked, “Is there a message for me?” Immediately there was a response as if just waiting for me to simply ask:

“Dear One. Beauty. There is beauty everywhere; and not just in the obvious places.”

Just as this message came a small bird chirped a gorgeous silky trill right above my head on a branch above me.

The bird’s song was exquisite and pleasurable beyond words. I sunk into it like I’ve never sunk into a sound before. The very vibration entered me and I felt it as if I was it.

In that moment the overwhelming perfection of creation sent a shockwave through my being and I humbly realized that such divine ecstasy was given to me for FREE.

I didn’t have to do anything for it. It was always there, an unconditional love personified as nature’s perfection, always available, always present, always accesible.

I didn’t have to do anything to receive such beauty, such grace, such divine perfection. And yet, these everyday moments of nature’s divinity are everywhere, every moment.

The profoundness of such a realization was just overwhelming and I let out another sob from deep within my soul. Crying not of sadness but of deep appreciation, realization, and gratefulness to simply be alive.

At that moment, in an instant, I just knew the thousands about thousands of millennia it must have took for this simple creature to sing so effortlessly. I realized the complexity of creation, the perfection in the chaos, the magic in the mundane.

I was being reminded to never again look upon anything as ordinary. The Mother of Creation was reminding me that we are no simple happening.

Everything is a wonder; filled with infinite mysteries.

And such was the message from Cathedral Rock; womb to Mother Earth, Gaia, and Pachamama – beauty and perfection are everywhere.

What can one do with the realization of the perfection of creation?

I did the only thing I could do.

I raised my hands in namaskar mudra, a symbolic gesture of bowing down in reverence.

I gave thanks to everything that conspired for me to be here; to be alive, to exist, to be aware, and to appreciate all that I am and ever will be.

“May you unfold your being with folded hands.” – Sadhguru

Chocolatree in Sedona, AZ - Orbs

(After my meditation we stopped at the ‘Chocolatree‘ a nearby vegan restaurant where I took a shot of Guruji’s Grace a natural ayurvedic shot. When my husband tried to take my pic the camera refused to focus on me. Clearly I’ve attracted some higher beings in my aura that were riding the wave of bliss that Mother Gaia bestowed upon me. If you look closely, you can even see an eye in one of the orbs.)

My gratitude for this inner experience is beyond words and yet I attempted to put it into language for the benefit of my readers.

I am sharing this with you so that your heart may be stirred. So that you are aware that there is magic everywhere.

“Dear One. Beauty. There is beauty everywhere; and not just in the obvious places.”

Where in your life can you reconnect to the divine?

Your child’s laughter?

Your homecooked meal?

A reinvigorating shower?

The sunrise? Sunset?

Your favorite tree?

Your very breath?

Don’t discount the ordinary, mundane, or everyday experiences or things.

Within all of creation is beauty; infinite beauty, so says Mother Gaia. 🙂

With you in wholeness,

Elizabeth

How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome

Do you sometimes feel like a fraud even though you know you have the necessary accomplishments, education, experience and acumen to be doing what you’re doing?

Do you feel underserving of the wins and successes you’ve gained?

Do you sometimes have the nagging feeling that someone will discover that you’re just a sham?

If so, you might be suffering from Imposter Syndrome.

Imposter Syndrome can be defined as a psychological pattern in which a person doubts their accomplishments and suffers a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

Many people feel this way at some time or other in their lives. There are certainly plenty of successful people at the height of their careers that feel this way now. Just where does this come from and why does it occur?

Feeling like an imposter means that you are remembering a past version yourself that didn’t have the necessary skills to embody who you are today. You are essentially “stuck” in the past. In order to break free from the past you need to become present to the you that you are today. 

There are reasons why so many people suffer from this syndrome and there is a permanent way out of it. I talk about this and more in my video below:

Listening vs Talking

One of my most watched youtube videos is The Art of Silence. In this video I talk about the incessant need of sharing and opining via talking, along with the energy consequences of this activity. I also introduce the concept of silence as a spiritual practice to evolve oneself and grow in maturity and conscious evolution. 

The need to constantly share has become more of an obsession with the advent of social media and the unexamined ‘social’ and ‘cultural’ norms of constantly updating one’s life status, thoughts, opinions, and activity levels.

In this world, everyone is fighting for the lead role on the stage of life. Pay attention to me! Listen to me! Watch this! Look at me doing this! See me, hear me, acknowledge me!!!

This is the ego, the unconscious, the unevolved aspect of ourselves that is desperate for attention in whatever form it can get it from. 

The internet aside, socializing and communing with others is equally fascinating.

People love to talk. They especially love to talk about themselves.

But did you ever notice that no one likes to listen? Those that listen are generally therapists, healers, helpers, and/or teachers. 

Those that find themselves in these roles tend to learn through observation, notice patterns, perceive the subtle, gravitate towards silence, prefer nature, and regularly practice self-contemplation and higher self-awareness.

The listeners of this world usually prefer solitude.

Why?

If you no longer have the need to constantly express and impress, then what do you have left?

What is left is life. Simplicity. Purity. Silence. Bliss. 

Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss

What the ancients have long expressed as: Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss. 

In the beginning, we stay silent to learn, to observe, to calm the feverish waters of the mind, egoic psyche, and karmic compulsions. 

As we abide in silence, we build greater and greater momentum as more and more self-awareness dawns. We notice things more, we pay attention easier, we come to understand others easily, we stay calm, our intuition grows, and our sensitivity to life expands. 

In the later stages, silence is no longer a disciplined practice but a call back home, our refuge, our center, our source of everything.

Learn to calm the waters of the mind. Practice silence.

Abstain from social media for a time. At first it will be difficult as the mind has an incessant need to share, judge, and compare. How else will you get your fix if you don’t find someone or something else to argue with or about?

Knowing this, give yourself some time to explore silence. At first, let it be a day without any social media updates, mindless flicking of Tik Tock or Youtube shorts, negative news updates, and gossip articles.

Explore this uncomfortable feeling and choose to do something else. Go outside and take a walk. Clean out that closet. Plant a tree, play with your children or pets. Start a new art craft or build something useful.

As you practice silence you gain more time. Time which can be used for self-exploration, personal development, and meditation.

Silence and solitude is not to be feared but to be explored to its depths. 

Do something different and try something new.

Mark Twain Quote on majority

If you are ready to explore silence and the depths of your being and would like a guide and mentor to help you on your path, please click the button below to schedule a discovery call with me. I look forward to working with you!

With you in wholeness,

Elizabeth

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