Why Meditate on Death?

“Mortality is the fundamental reality of our existence.” – Sadhguru

I just booked my trip to Varanasi, India for September.

Varanasi, India is also known as Banaras or Kashi; the ancient City of Light.

Kashi is India’s holiest city and is also the oldest city in the world. It existed prior to Athens, Rome, and even Egypt. The city itself has thousands of temples each vibrating distinctly different energies for pilgrims and seekers looking to expand their consciousness.

Kashi is also India’s #1 destination when it comes to death. As much as 300 bodies are brought to Varanasi everyday with cremation pyres burning 24/7.

Everyone wants to die in Varanasi.

How is it that the oldest city in the world is simultaneously known for it’s light and liberation and yet, at the same time, the smell of death lingers everywhere?

How can this city be both the City of Light and the City of Death?

To understand these two seemingly opposite worlds, let’s begin with what is referred to as ‘death meditation’.

The notion of meditating on one’s death isn’t something new. Many Eastern religions, philosophies and spiritual practices invite their devotees, meditators and disciples to focus on this inevitable aspect of life.

Death meditation involves visualizing your own death and watching your body burn and slowly disintegrate. Though this sounds morbid and depressing by Western standards, the East has long known that this death meditation can be powerfully liberating.

By visualizing your body burning you mentally and emotionally go through the process of disidentification with your physical form.

Watching your body burn, seeing the flames char the flesh and turn it to ash is deeply compelling.

Tears may flow, body heaves may come in waves while intermittent shudders reflexively purge throughout the system.

An intense grief might overtake you as watch the most visceral and personal possession you have; your physical body, slowly get consumed by ever growing flames, heat, and smoke.

What was once a discernable human form is starting to lose it’s recognizable features and intimate characteristics start to fade and dissappear.

As you continue to watch your body burn another rising sense of grief makes itself known. All that was yours, all that you could call distinctly your own; your home, your clothes, your personal items, even your family, pets, children, and spouse also slowly fade away.

Fear rises and falls as you continue to watch the scene unfold.

Anxiety, worry, grief and despair all get their chance to express and release.

Finally the seemingly never ending torture seems to find it’s end. You see that the body is no more. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. The silent strength in knowing that everything that was once physically, mentally, emotionally and energetically yours is now gone.

What is left?

Awareness. Ever-present silence. A sense of Equanimity. A profound Acceptance into the nature of Life and Death.

A newly found raised pitch of conscious awareness.

“What you accumulate can be yours, but it can never be you.” – Sadhguru

Meditating on your own death is a potent practice because it dissolves that primitive fear that we all share.

The fear that when the body dies we are no more.

But, when you meditate and invite this death meditation into your awareness, when you purge the fear and release it, it creates a profound opening.

An invitation.

A realization and final understanding.

What once held you back in fear has now liberated you.

No fear, just life. No death, just awareness.

It is only when you can face your own death with grace and dignity can you then have the courage to live authentically and fearlessly.

Life and death are simply the flip side of the same coin.

Death Meditation

So Kashi, the ancient city of Light and Death.

Where you can simultaneously walk the streets to the next temple that may hold your liberation while the smell of death lingers through the air.

Varanasi, the oldest city in the world, knows the ultimate secret. 

Listening vs Talking

One of my most watched youtube videos is The Art of Silence. In this video I talk about the incessant need of sharing and opining via talking, along with the energy consequences of this activity. I also introduce the concept of silence as a spiritual practice to evolve oneself and grow in maturity and conscious evolution. 

The need to constantly share has become more of an obsession with the advent of social media and the unexamined ‘social’ and ‘cultural’ norms of constantly updating one’s life status, thoughts, opinions, and activity levels.

In this world, everyone is fighting for the lead role on the stage of life. Pay attention to me! Listen to me! Watch this! Look at me doing this! See me, hear me, acknowledge me!!!

This is the ego, the unconscious, the unevolved aspect of ourselves that is desperate for attention in whatever form it can get it from. 

The internet aside, socializing and communing with others is equally fascinating.

People love to talk. They especially love to talk about themselves.

But did you ever notice that no one likes to listen? Those that listen are generally therapists, healers, helpers, and/or teachers. 

Those that find themselves in these roles tend to learn through observation, notice patterns, perceive the subtle, gravitate towards silence, prefer nature, and regularly practice self-contemplation and higher self-awareness.

The listeners of this world usually prefer solitude.

Why?

If you no longer have the need to constantly express and impress, then what do you have left?

What is left is life. Simplicity. Purity. Silence. Bliss. 

Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss

What the ancients have long expressed as: Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss. 

In the beginning, we stay silent to learn, to observe, to calm the feverish waters of the mind, egoic psyche, and karmic compulsions. 

As we abide in silence, we build greater and greater momentum as more and more self-awareness dawns. We notice things more, we pay attention easier, we come to understand others easily, we stay calm, our intuition grows, and our sensitivity to life expands. 

In the later stages, silence is no longer a disciplined practice but a call back home, our refuge, our center, our source of everything.

Learn to calm the waters of the mind. Practice silence.

Abstain from social media for a time. At first it will be difficult as the mind has an incessant need to share, judge, and compare. How else will you get your fix if you don’t find someone or something else to argue with or about?

Knowing this, give yourself some time to explore silence. At first, let it be a day without any social media updates, mindless flicking of Tik Tock or Youtube shorts, negative news updates, and gossip articles.

Explore this uncomfortable feeling and choose to do something else. Go outside and take a walk. Clean out that closet. Plant a tree, play with your children or pets. Start a new art craft or build something useful.

As you practice silence you gain more time. Time which can be used for self-exploration, personal development, and meditation.

Silence and solitude is not to be feared but to be explored to its depths. 

Do something different and try something new.

Mark Twain Quote on majority

If you are ready to explore silence and the depths of your being and would like a guide and mentor to help you on your path, please click the button below to schedule a discovery call with me. I look forward to working with you!

With you in wholeness,

Elizabeth

How A Spiritual Coach Works With Your Energy

Choosing to work with a coach isn’t an easy decision.

Oftentimes we have tried many different ways to help ourselves before we reach out for help through a coach. 

A Spiritual Coach takes even more courage as we aren’t just working with accountability and goal setting but also personal transformation and maturity in our spiritual awareness

When I work with a client I work on many different levels. We begin with a client filling out a Welcome Pack which gives you an opportunity to tell me why you are seeking guidance and support.

In the Welcome Pack I ask some pretty interesting questions like, “Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you that life had suddenly gotten better?”

This question gives you an opportunity to tell me what you REALLY wish and desire. Oftentimes, client’s answers to this question really surprises them. 

I also work heavily on the energetic level of all my clients. Before all of our sessions I meditate to gain a clearer sense of what you need and how to offer you the best guidance. I work holistically; offering you inner-tools, resources, practices and strategies that are aimed towards increasing your self-awareness and overall vibration. By tuning into your energy before sessions I personalize spiritual roadmaps that help you navigate your journey in the best way for you.

I also tune into your energy throughout the week to help stabilize and balance you while also transmitting love and higher vibrations. Love is a very powerful healer and can clear away any negative influences and help you stay on track. Being in alignment with a powerful energy source helps to keep you motivated, inspired, accountable, and responsible. 

Our first session is around 90 minutes and we do a deep dive into your your goals, aspirations, challenges, and spiritual journey. I often weave in a personalized meditations to help you gain added insight, clarity, and to help you strengthen your own intuition and wisdom.

All of ours sessions end with some ‘homework’ or ‘spiritual work’ where you will be tasked to read a certain book that resonates with what you need at this time or be given some energy work to practice on. I also regularly provide spiritual tools and practices to help you stay balanced, grounded, and joyful.

All future sessions focus on what you’d like greater insight on and what you want to explore. We work on discovering limiting beliefs. developing your own personalized spiritual practice, troubleshoot meditation questions, and explore your way of seeing and perceiving the world. 

Everyone always gains greater self-awareness, increased confidence, and the ability to give and receive love. I help you to trust yourself, get in tune with your intuition, and help connect you to your divinity and power.  

Spiritual Coaching requires courage, honesty and vulnerability but what you get back cannot be measured. 

It is an honor to be working and serving those that resonate with me and I hope that if I haven’t worked with you yet, perhaps one day I will. 

Personalized Spiritual Roadmaps – A Unique Offering From BYC 🙏

Did you know that everyone is on a spiritual path?

As self-aware beings we are on the path of the evolution of consciousness.

As we go about our lives, learning, growing, self-reflecting, integrating, and maturing, we continue to evolve our state of consciousness. 

In fact, anything that helps us to remain aware of the present moment and conscious of our inner world can be considered a tool for our continuing conscious evolution. 

What Are Spiritual Tools?

Religions, philosophies, and creeds offer different tools to help people get in touch with their true Self. Some tools involve guidelines and recommendations for everyday living, other tools incorporate daily practices, and others clarify complex truths through teachings and ways of seeing the world. 

As everyone is unique and comes from a different upbringing and cultural background, so there are different spiritual paths and tools that different people are attracted to and resonate with. 

Part of my job as a spiritual teacher, mentor and guide is to help my clients gain a better understanding of their beliefs and ways of seeing the world. By understanding what lens or perspective you are experiencing reality through, I can then hand-pick various tools that will work best for your unique outlook. 

For example, some people benefit from integrating the past in order to realign into their present. In this case we work on healing old wounds through integration, compassion and understanding. Without this necessary step many people will not allow themselves to move forward. They remain stuck. 

For other people, it is a matter of deep diving into their subconscious to uncover limiting beliefs that are holding them back. It is a ‘soul retrieval’ of sorts and the discovery of these lost or ignored aspects of their greater self helps to integrate them into the present moment as a fully functioning and consciously aware being. 

Other people have a lot of drive and energy but can’t seem to get out of their own way. For these individuals there is a calling of ‘slowing down’ and getting in touch with one’s body consciousness and higher awareness. Incorporating meditation, self-inquiry, and daily journaling help to facilitate going deep within themselves in order to go beyond. 

There are countless other examples and variations of different ways in which individuals limit themselves from fully experiencing the present moment in a calm, clear, and fully conscious state of mind.

No matter where you are or how stuck you may feel, there is a tool available that can help you along your path.

The tools I offer resonate with your state of self-awareness and receptivity. Not all tools work for everyone. There must be a resonance in energy and a willingness to give the tool a try. 

How Can A Personalized Spiritual Roadmap Help Me?

Over the course of our 3 or 6 month coaching journey together, I work very deeply with your energy to understand which tools will work best for you. You can think of these tools as ‘permission slips’ that open a door for you to rediscover who you really are.  

All teachings, beliefs, practices, philosophies and religions are tools. They were created by the human mind to help advance and expand consciousness. Whatever you are drawn to determines which path you are on and which tools will work best for you. 

As you continue to evolve in consciousness the use for various tools will dissolve. But this is a very advanced state of higher awareness and comes with the realization that all tools can only help point to the truth but isn’t in itself truth.

Like the old zen teaching of pointing to the moon:

The finger pointing to the moon is not the moon.

In other words, the finger is what is guiding you to see the moon. Without the aid of the finger you might have missed it; the pointing finger (the tool) is not what really matters. It is just pointing you to the truth.

The tool can point and show you the way, just as any religion, ritual, teacher, strategy, philosophy or practice can show you the way, but it can never be Truth.

Guided meditations aren’t about creative visualization. It is about helping you to see the nature of your mind, empowering you to be a creative being, and encouraging you to take responsibility for your creations.

Breathing techniques aren’t about breathing. It is about understanding the connection of the breath or life force to your state of consciousness and thereafter consciously choosing how one wishes to experience life.

Journaling isn’t about journaling. It is about helping you connect the dots of your belief systems and the reality and world that you are creating for yourself.

Stilling your mind isn’t about relaxing and being peaceful. A naturally still or meditative mind is about knowing the source of creation; experientially knowing or realizing who and what you really are.

So, what spiritual path are you on? What tools have you used that worked for you? What tools are no longer working?

Contact me for your own Personalized Spiritual Roadmap with tools guaranteed to work uniquely for you!

I look forward to working with you!

With you in wholeness,

Elizabeth

Five Non-negotiables – Enhance Your Energy and Expand Consciousness

There are many little things that we do everyday that we wouldn’t dream of skipping, like brushing our teeth, taking a shower, or eating. Though many of us live very different lives, there is a stark difference between surviving and thriving.

Individual’s that choose to live their lives in a manner of consistent growth and development know that creating daily non-negotiable habits are integral to living a life of greater purpose and fulfillment. It must be understood that most things that bring a sense of peace and joy are not found through temporary and immediate gratification, but are often hard won after a certain level of sacrifice has been implemented.

Those that employ daily non-negotiable activities enjoy greater mood regulation and stabilization along with more consistent feelings of overall purpose and value. In other words, if you want to enjoy life to the fullest you need to consciously implement daily strategies in order to maximize conscious growth and expansion.

Here are five basic non-negotiable activities that you can choose to adopt in order to create a healthier overall lifestyle:

1. Sleep – Follow Nature’s Natural Rhythm

They say that for every hour you sleep before midnight, it is like an additional two hours of sleep. Though this may largely be a widespread myth, the fact remains that getting to bed early helps the body’s natural circadian rhythm and sleep cycles to perform at optimum levels. From an energetic perspective, the amount of sleep you need is largely dependent upon the food that you eat, the thoughts and emotions that you have, and the level of overall vibrancy of your energetic system.

Vegetarian diets are easier to digest and put less strain on the body thus requiring less sleep to revitalize the body’s energy levels. Thoughts and emotions also play a large role in the amount of sleep one needs; with habitual worry, anxiety and a negative mind-set resulting in poor sleep stretched over many hours.

Finally, energy vibrancy aka prana or chi energy is cultivated through meditation and energetic practices, which overtime, lowers the amount of sleep the physical body needs to recuperate during the night.

Whether you need five hours of sleep or eight, going to bed early allows one to get up early and there are a great many advantages to getting up prior to sunrise that will get your day started off in a very powerful way.

2. Meditate

Like Hatha Yoga, the West has adopted ‘meditation’ as their own and now happily espouses the virtues of this ancient spiritual practice. It must be said however, that meditation in the traditional sense is quite different from what the Western mind has molded it to be. Meditation is a consequence of a certain state of consciousness and is a result of a purified mind with no thought or ‘object’ as its subject. Meditation is natural and available to anyone but needs to be cultivated over many years of consistent practice.

There are many reasons why one would practice the regular stilling of the mind to a no-thought state, not least of which is the immediate sense of clarity of perception, higher awareness, and emotional regulation and control stemming from the watching of thoughts and executing the choice of whether or not one chooses to respond to a particular thought or simply watch it float on by.

“WHEN MEDITATION IS MASTERED, THE MIND IS UNWAVERING LIKE THE FLAME OF A LAMP IN A WINDLESS PLACE. IN THE STILL MIND, IN THE DEPTHS OF MEDITATION, THE SELF REVEALS ITSELF. BEHOLDING THE SELF BY MEANS OF THE SELF, AN ASPIRANT KNOWS THE JOY AND PEACE OF COMPLETE FULFILLMENT.” – THE BHAGAVAD GITA

Long time meditators enjoy silence not because they are boring but because in silence we expand our awareness beyond the confines of the small ‘me’ that we perceive ourselves to be. With conscious expansion comes higher awareness of the natural unity of all life and feelings of deep compassion and love for existence.

Breaking the chains of habitual thought and rising above our thought level allows one to consistently be the ‘observer’ instead of always being the exhausted participant. Meditation is the elixir of the soul and building a daily practice is a panacea to many mental/emotional disturbances.

3. Exercise

Incorporating daily exercise should be a no-brainer at this stage of health awareness. Our body needs to move and stretch, heart rates need to be elevated, sweat released, muscles strained and bones stressed. Our bodies are physical machines that need to be oiled and lubricated daily in order for them to be operating at optimum levels.

Whether it is running, swimming, weight training, cycling, yoga or simply floor exercises, the body craves activity while the mind enjoys some time off. Exercise releases tension, stress, and anxiety and releases stuck and stagnant energy. Those that exercise daily enjoy tight firm bodies, radiant skin, bright eyes and a relaxed happy attitude.

There is more than enough data available to confirm that daily exercise is an integral part of a healthy lifestyle. Anywhere from 30 – 60 minutes everyday can make a marked difference in one’s overall attitude and emotional well-being.

4. Healthy Eating

Food is fuel for the body and is just as much a chemical process as it is an alchemical process. As everything is energy on the quantum level, so too is the food that we choose to eat. Different foods carry different qualities and energetic vibrations that affect our internal chemistry and vibrancy. Food that is natural and unprocessed offer the highest pranic (energy) value and requires very little energy for our body to break down and assimilate.

Food that is highly processed or dense (meat) takes a very long time to digest and siphons a huge amount of energy to process. From an energy efficiency standpoint, it doesn’t make sense to eat foods that are highly processed as they offer little to no nutritional value.

If one is clear in making health and wellness a priority in their lives, then nutrition and healthy eating should also be a no-brainer. Each meal should have high energy potency that allows the body and brain to function at the highest possible level for long-term well-being.

5.  Contemplation/Reflection/Self-Inquiry – Journaling

The journey of life should be one of continual growth, expansion, and maturity. As children our lives are occupied with learning about the outside world and how we can potentially fit into it.

We spend these early years paying stark attention to social mores and cultural traditions. We seek to fit in and be part of the group whether that is a family unit or one of our choosing. As we continue to grow and mature we evolve past these confines and start to seek a deeper connection to life itself; a more inclusive attitude that incorporates all of humanity, not just our familiar family and friends.

For this to happen we must expand and grow into someone new. Journaling is a very powerful tool to help aid in the continuing evolution of Self and who we aim to create ourselves to be. The awareness that we can ‘choose’ to be someone instead of defaulting into someone is in itself a very powerful revelation.

For those that have come to understand that, “…All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players..” (Shakespeare), it is time to consciously choose who we want to become. For this, journaling is an immensely powerful tool of illumination, revelation, and contemplation.

Live Simply 

Life is simple. 

These five basic non-negotiables of everyday life will take you a very long way.

If you are interested in developing a healthy routine into your daily life and would like accountability and support please click the link below to schedule a 30 minute discovery call to see if coaching with me would be the right fit for you. (click here for ‘How a Spiritual Coach works with your energy‘)

I look forward to speaking with you!

Warmest,

Elizabeth

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